{"id":48,"date":"2018-08-15T12:26:15","date_gmt":"2018-08-15T12:26:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.metu.edu.tr\/bali\/?p=48"},"modified":"2018-09-03T06:11:55","modified_gmt":"2018-09-03T06:11:55","slug":"kaygilanmamaya-calismak-da-kaygi-degil-mi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.metu.edu.tr\/bali\/2018\/08\/15\/kaygilanmamaya-calismak-da-kaygi-degil-mi\/","title":{"rendered":"“Kayg\u0131lanmamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak” da “kayg\u0131” de\u011fil mi?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a><\/p>\n

Diyelim ki “kayg\u0131lanmak” istemiyoruz. “O zaman ‘kayg\u0131lanmamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak’ gerekmez mi?” denebilir.<\/p>\n

Evet, \u015fimdilik mant\u0131kl\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcyor.<\/p>\n

Ne var ki hayat \u00e7ok da mant\u0131kl\u0131 de\u011fil. En az\u0131ndan “d\u00fcz mant\u0131k”l\u0131 de\u011fil.<\/p>\n

\u0130lgin\u00e7tir 7’den 70’e bu tuza\u011fa “cumburlop” diye atl\u0131yoruz. Bak\u0131n duydunuz mu? Bir yerlerde biri atlad\u0131 yine.<\/p>\n

Ancak \u015f\u00f6yle bir \u015fey var ki “kayg\u0131lanmamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak”, “KAYGI”n\u0131n kendisi…<\/p>\n

Hatta ta kendisi!<\/p>\n

“Oh g\u00fczel… Kayg\u0131l\u0131 de\u011filim de\u011fil mi? Kayg\u0131l\u0131 m\u0131y\u0131m? Yok can\u0131m. Kayg\u0131l\u0131 de\u011filim herhalde. Ne kadard\u0131r kayg\u0131l\u0131 de\u011filim ben? Yani tamam \u015fimdi kayg\u0131l\u0131 de\u011filim gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcyor ama bu durum ne kadar s\u00fcrer? Bu kayg\u0131s\u0131z durum ne kadar s\u00fcrecek? Ya tekrar kayg\u0131lanmaya ba\u015flarsam? Kayg\u0131l\u0131 m\u0131y\u0131m \u015fimdi? Yok de\u011filim herhalde. ‘Herhalde’ dedi\u011fime g\u00f6re… Hay aksi. Yo yo yo. Bir saniye, bir saniye. Yoksa… Kayg\u0131l\u0131 m\u0131y\u0131m? Yok de\u011filim herhalde. Hiii! Bak yi-ne ‘her-hal-de’ de-dim. Ya Allah a\u015fk\u0131na do\u011fruyu s\u00f6yleyin kayg\u0131l\u0131 m\u0131y\u0131m de\u011fil miyim?”<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

\u00d6nce \u015funun alt\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7izelim. Sorun bizde de\u011fil. Sorun d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce ve duygular\u0131 kontrol etme \u00e7abas\u0131nda. \u0130nsanlar\u0131n sorunu kayg\u0131 de\u011fil. \u00c7o\u011fu zaman insanlar\u0131n sorunu “kayg\u0131dan kayg\u0131lanmak” ya da “\u00fcz\u00fclece\u011fim diye \u00fcz\u00fclmek”. Cumburlop! Baz\u0131 duygulardan ka\u00e7maya \u00f6yle ko\u015fullam\u0131\u015flar ki bizi “korkudan korkmak”tan f\u0131rsat bulup da bir \u015feylerden \u015f\u00f6yle do\u011frudan korkam\u0131yoruz. Sevinece\u011fim diye sevinir gibi oluyoruz; ama sevinemiyoruz bir t\u00fcrl\u00fc.<\/p>\n

Davran\u0131\u015fsal Esneme ve Aynag\u00f6n\u00fcl der ki: “Size iyi hissetmeyi \u00f6\u011fretmek isteyen \u00e7ok olur; ancak ben duygusal ac\u0131yla temas etmeyi \u00f6\u011fretmek istiyorum. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc her do\u011fum sanc\u0131l\u0131d\u0131r. Ya\u015fant\u0131sal deneyimler de d\u00fc\u015fman de\u011fil, yeni do\u011fuma yol g\u00f6steren ebelerdir.”<\/p>\n

“Cumburlop!” Duydunuz de\u011fil mi? Birileri bir yerlerde yine atlad\u0131.<\/p>\n

Ama duygular ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerle do\u011frudan temas edebilmek ve g\u00f6nl\u00fc geni\u015f olmak bizi bu hayatta esnek tutar. Ve ancak b\u00f6ylece anda olur ve huzura geliriz. Unutmamak gerek, ne g\u00fczel demi\u015f eskiler: “Sava\u015f\u0131n korkusu sava\u015ftan beterdir.” Ayn\u0131s\u0131 depresyon, kayg\u0131, panik atak, tak\u0131nt\u0131lar, reddedilmek i\u00e7in de ge\u00e7erli. \u0130sterseniz bir ka\u011f\u0131da yazarak ba\u015flay\u0131n: Bakal\u0131m sizin i\u00e7in neyin korkusu kendisinden beter?<\/p>\n

__ korkusu __ beter.<\/strong><\/h2>\n

G\u00fcnl\u00fck yaz\u0131lar\u0131 Instagram\u2019da takip edebilirsiniz.\u00a0@aynagonul<\/a><\/p>\n

\"\"<\/a><\/p>\n[Dr. Ali Bayramo\u011flu, \u201cBa\u015fka Bir D\u00fcnya M\u00fcmk\u00fcn\u201d]\u00a0 Kitap hakk\u0131nda detayl\u0131 bilgiye\u00a0BURADAN<\/a>\u00a0ula\u015fabilirsiniz.<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/a><\/p>\n

Kitab\u0131 bulabilece\u011finiz ba\u011flant\u0131lar:<\/p>\n

Hepsi Burada<\/a>\u00a0\/\u00a0Kitapyurdu\u00a0<\/a>\/\u00a0Arkada\u015f Kitabevi<\/a>\u00a0\/\u00a0Pandora\u00a0<\/a>\/\u00a0Babil\u00a0<\/a>\/Oda Kitap<\/a>\u00a0\/\u00a0D&R<\/a>\u00a0\/\u00a0idefix<\/a>\u00a0\/\u00a0KitapBulut<\/a>\u00a0\/\u00a0Kitap Koala<\/a><\/h4>\n
Do\u011fan Kitap<\/a>\u00a0ve pek \u00e7ok \u00e7evrimi\u00e7i kitabevinde\u2026<\/div>\n
Kitap satan her yerde<\/strong><\/em><\/div>\n

 <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Diyelim ki “kayg\u0131lanmak” istemiyoruz. “O zaman ‘kayg\u0131lanmamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak’ gerekmez mi?” denebilir. Evet, \u015fimdilik mant\u0131kl\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcyor. Ne var ki hayat \u00e7ok da mant\u0131kl\u0131 de\u011fil. En az\u0131ndan “d\u00fcz mant\u0131k”l\u0131 de\u011fil. \u0130lgin\u00e7tir 7’den 70’e bu tuza\u011fa “cumburlop” diye atl\u0131yoruz. Bak\u0131n duydunuz mu? Bir yerlerde biri atlad\u0131 yine. Ancak \u015f\u00f6yle bir \u015fey var ki “kayg\u0131lanmamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak”, “KAYGI”n\u0131n kendisi… Hatta […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5675,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":"","_links_to":"","_links_to_target":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-48","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-davranissal-esneme-yazilari"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.metu.edu.tr\/bali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/48","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.metu.edu.tr\/bali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.metu.edu.tr\/bali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.metu.edu.tr\/bali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5675"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.metu.edu.tr\/bali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=48"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/blog.metu.edu.tr\/bali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/48\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.metu.edu.tr\/bali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=48"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.metu.edu.tr\/bali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=48"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.metu.edu.tr\/bali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=48"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}